Insightful Tips For The 'Unique' Mature Single...

Do you want to discover valuable insight as a mature single in this unique season of your life? Then you're at the right place. In my book, 'Insightful Tips For the 'Unique' Mature Single' you'll discover insightful tips for the season you're in, whilst waiting to embark on the next season of your life. I've answered a few questions, in interview format, that can help you understand what the book is all about. And I promise, there are no spoilers, only what you can expect when reading it.

Here is a brief summary of what to expect from my first book.

What inspired you to write a book specifically for single women?

At the time I wrote my book, I did not specifically set out to write a book about singleness. I was at a juncture in my life when I wanted to journal my thoughts about the season I was in. It was only after I had collated quite a lot of information and started giving my journaling a structure that resembled the format of a book, that I felt God ask me if I was going to leave on my computer what I had written. It was only then that I sensed I was to write a book from what I had learnt on my journey, to encourage and inspire other singles who might be in the same predicament.

What do you think are some of the biggest challenges faced by single women today?

I believe one of the biggest challenges single women face today is the ‘wait’ factor. Whilst many are accomplished and have made great successes of their lives, the fact that we don’t know how long we have to wait until we meet our spouse can be quite heart wrenching, especially if an individual has never been married before and has been faithful to God and served sacrificially in the church. Another challenge can be that we feel that we have been forgotten. Everyone seems to be ‘seen’ in the church and their particular issues addressed and acknowledged, but singles are often left to fend and try to figure things out for themselves.

What advice would you give to single women who are struggling to find a fulfilling relationship?

I know it sounds like an old cliché, but the most simple answer is to adopt the approach Mary, the sister of Martha and Lazarus took. She positioned herself at the feet of Jesus and in His presence, she gleaned value wisdom that she could get from no one else who was as qualified as He was. In terms of dating, in this day and age, it really is a minefield out there and the pursuit to find a suitable mate is that much harder. Single women, therefore, cannot afford to enter into a relationship without the Holy Spirit doing the vetting on their behalf. Most of the time when individuals are dating, they are only showing their representative. However, the Holy Spirit will show us those things in a person’s character that they may not want to disclose.

Do you believe that society places too much emphasis on being in a relationship? How do you address this in your book?

I believe society does place a lot of emphasis on individuals being in relationships because on a whole we are relational beings. That’s how we were designed by God. He also stated that it was good for a person not to be alone, be that on an intimate level or just individuals relating with each other on a friendship level. I try to address a person's worth as opposed to their marital status to highlight how God sees each and everyone of us holistically.

What are some common misconceptions about being a single woman, and how do you dispel them in your writing?

One misconception single women get accused of is that they are being too picky, as if we should just settle for the first man who shows interest in us just to be seen to be in a relationship. Regardless of whether they are suitable or not. I address in my book that women should wait for God’s best and, therefore, should settle for nothing short of that.

How do you approach the topic of self-love and self-care in your book?

I share with my readers that as single women, they are unique, strong and worthy of love, especially God’s love. They should never see themselves as second-class citizens based on their marital status. God loves each one of us, whether we are married or not. We should also see ourselves how God sees us; fearfully and wonderfully made. When we value ourselves, then we see that we are worthy of having God’s best and we should expect no less than that.

Do you think there is a difference in how single women in different age groups approach dating and relationships? If so, how do you address this in your book?

Yes, I do believe there is a stark difference between how women in different age groups approach dating and build relationships. Whilst older women may be looking for a more organic approach to developing relationships, such as in-person and one-to-one contact. The younger women are more open to using social media to give them the upper hand in building relationships. You often hear of them dropping a DM (direct message) into the account of someone they find interesting and want to make contact with. There is also online dating which is proving to be the most popular way to meet a number of eligible individuals and to be seen.

Do you believe that being single can be a positive and empowering choice? How do you explore this idea in your book?

There are many positives to being single as it affords a season where individuals can work on themselves to be the best they can be in any future relationship that they will embark on. If they like to travel, they can explore new places and learn a lot about other cultures and life in general. It is when singleness is prolonged and individuals find themselves single for longer than they had anticipated, this is where resentment and other negative emotions can be experienced.

What do you hope readers will take away from your book?

I hope readers will appreciate that they are unique and their single status does not define their identity. I also hope that readers will see themselves as valuable and worthy of love and not see themselves as second class citizens, but rather that they are made in the image of God. Why not get your get your copy on Amazon to learn more?

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